Typically, couples who marry have little idea what awaits them as a result. This mainly applies to young people who believe that after the registry office they expect a period similar to the time of dates. In fact, everything is different, because living together and seeing each other several times a week are completely different concepts. In order for everything to be at home in the best possible way, it is very convenient to draw up the rules of the family, which you adhere to subsequently.
The need for their laws
Quite often it turns out that everyone wanted the best, but everything turned out completely different. To develop a family, you need to take certain actions. People marry because they feel good together. And it is very important to keep this relationship fresh for a long time. But how to do this if everyone is already a mature personality and is used to living in accordance with their preferences?
During periodic meetings, of course, I did not have to deal with issues related to everyday life. But now, in order not to overshadow life by clarifying relationships, quarrels, it is necessary to determine the rules of the family that are binding on them. Thus, 2 people, each of whom was brought up differently from the other, will be able to live peacefully and happily.
Partner respect
First of all, you need to relate to your soulmate in exactly the same way you want to be treated to you. To do this, you need to see a person first of all as a person. Do not impose on your wife who wants to learn English, excessive housework. In any case, a woman knows that she needs to take care of her man, improving his life in every way. But not every spouse has a great desire to constantly go around the house with a rag.
Also, a man may try to force the chosen one to transform her appearance in accordance with his understanding of this issue. Perhaps he is jealous, therefore, does not want his wife to wear short skirts. Or maybe her husband wants everyone to know how beautiful she is, so she is trying to get her to take more care of herself, but in accordance with her taste preferences. In any case, the addictions of the second half must be treated with respect, you can not push.
Community of interests
Promising couples always have similar interests. In any case, aspirations must be different. Such couples always find common themes, in addition, they can tell the partner something new. Thus, spouses are quite interested in communicating with each other. The rules of the family should first of all include the point of adopting their soulmate as it is.
Do not try to “close” your wife in 4 walls, as many men can try to do. As a result, the interests of the woman will be reduced only to the family and home, and the husband will become bored with her communication. Also, the wife should understand that if she is not interested in something new for herself, then soon the number of topics for communication will be reduced to zero.
In order to be interesting together, you do not need to limit yourself to a routine. You should be together at various events (meetings, exhibitions, films, etc.). No need to step back and try to live your own life. Because as a result, this will lead to the collapse of the relationship.
Interested in the life of a partner
Quite often, it happens that wives are interested in how the events occurred in their husbands at work. But the spouse does not want to talk about this topic. He may have his own reasons. Often it all boils down to the fact that at home he wants to relax and not think about work problems, to distract from them, to forget.
Also, it is not uncommon for an option in which a man is interested to talk about his work constantly. And in his wife he sees a grateful listener. The spouse, because she has to listen to a number of facts, for example, about any mechanisms, does not feel inspired to communicate.
That is, it is necessary to find a middle ground here. And again, it all comes down to understanding the partner. Family rules should primarily be aimed at seeing a person nearby as an individual. And already depending on this, take any action.
Honesty is the key to a good relationship
A very big problem for couples is their inability to behave honestly. When two people communicate, there are always moments with which one of them disagrees. Do not close your eyes to this, accumulating resentment.
You should make it a rule to always tell your partner about what is not suitable. Do not complain, curse or raise your tone. Communication should be gentle, calm and loving. In any case, you need to remember that next is not a stranger, but the second half. A partner may have his own ideas, so he does not need to be judged. On the contrary, the rules of family life should be to stipulate all the difficulties that arise.
Segregation of duties
Once upon a time it turned out that a man should provide for his family, and a woman should do housework. Now it’s different times, and the responsibilities of partners must correspond to the time.
The conditions of modern life develop in people the desire to try to make good money. This is done in order to live with dignity. It happens that it’s more difficult for a man to earn money. And if the wife works to improve the general financial situation, then you should not burden her with household chores. In this case, the duties should be distributed equally between the spouses. This moment can always be replayed. Family rules and regulations should determine that more work is done by someone who is currently freer.
Do not give up physical intimacy
Regrettably, many couples are less likely to have sex, experiencing physical fatigue after a busy day. Men are more physically developed, therefore, they are easier to carry loads. But if a woman works all day, and in the evening is engaged in cleaning and cooking, then at night she wants to relax. And this desire is completely reasonable and completely natural.
The family code of practice should indicate that such a problem should be addressed and discussed together. Of course, in the absence of mutual understanding, as a result, the family will be destroyed. In any case, you need to find time for intimacy and love. But one should act in such a way that both have a good time in joy, and not as an additional burden.
Mutual support
In any case, you need to give each other a friendly shoulder. After all, spouses are not only lovers, but also very good and kind friends. You should always try to support each other. To do this, you should say warm words to your partner and in no case skimp on them.
Family is the rear in the life of each of us. It is very important that after returning from somewhere it always turns out to return to a loving and understanding person who will always understand and support. Do not ignore the partner, on the contrary, you need to try to understand and support him as much as possible.
Set of rules
Moral norms are also of great importance. There must be moral rules in the family, a list of which is familiar to each of its members. In order for children to grow up decent and well-mannered people, they should also be subject to the laws adopted in the family. If certain conditions are not met, it is allowed to indicate a miss. But you need to do this tactfully and in a friendly manner.
5 family rules subject to strict observance may look like this:
- Helping and supporting each other in every way.
- Respect and love parents.
- To tell the truth.
- Do not discuss others.
- To fulfill promises.
Care should be taken that there are not too many rules. It is also important to eliminate contradictions. If a long list is compiled, then its importance is lost. In addition, it is difficult to remember and bring it to life. And if the set of rules includes points that a child must observe, then the list should not be difficult to understand.
In addition, the baby should clearly and clearly understand what should not be done. Rules should be presented as norms, the implementation of which should be carried out strictly. This should not be a prohibition from parents at all times.
Friendship Relationships
Many will agree that over time, couples faintly resemble lovers. Relations between a man and a woman often come down to friendship, although very close. The set of selected rules can be absolutely anything. The fact is that each person chooses those norms that he considers necessary for himself. After all, no one forces friends to be honest and not to deceive each other. They do so according to their inner aspirations.
Friends may secretly believe that if some rules are violated, their relationship will be destroyed. And it is very important to understand that any quarrel can lead to a deterioration in relationships. Therefore, when a misunderstanding appears, you need to put up with each other very quickly. The main rules of the family are based on this. Examples are that relationships in a couple are more important than any fraud, misunderstanding with children, problems at work or difficulties of a material nature. All of the above should not become larger than the relationship.
It's important to be beautiful
You must try to take care of yourself, and do this not for the holidays, but constantly. The well-groomed appearance of both partners is a guarantee that the relationship will exist for quite some time. The moral rules adopted in the family must necessarily include the requirement to take care of yourself. Do not forget about yourself, because for a lot of daily problems, spouses can begin to completely ignore their appearance. This should not be done, because the interest of both partners in most cases manifests itself through visual contact. And if one begins to perceive the other as furniture, then it is possible that the one who does not take care of himself is to blame. Therefore, do not forget about shops with fashionable and beautiful clothes.
You also need to take care of the quality and beauty of your underwear. Moreover, a rich modern choice allows people of different ages and material wealth to look stylish and spectacular. It is also necessary to pay attention to cosmetics and perfumes.
The code of practice is mandatory in every family. But one does not need to treat him as something boring and complicating life. The rules of family members are set by the spouses themselves. And they must fully comply with their ideas about harmonious relations, be aimed at improving and strengthening them. Two loving people share how they see family life and what is important to them. In no case should it be done so that for one person the rules are something familiar from childhood, and the other partner performs them with difficulty. The adoption of such standards should be fair and tantamount to.