If the husband is angry, you need to give him time to cool. Almost all women choose this technique in behavior. However, abstraction does not always help a man recover. A lady should be able to build relationships, support her companion in her endeavors and promote career growth. As they say, behind every successful man is his woman.
Temporary clouding of the mind
Everyone in life has black stripes, and men are no exception. They are constantly working, trying to give their wives and children everything so that they do not need anything. Sometimes, even the strongest person can get tired of the little things - improperly placed dishes, ironed shirt and more. How to overcome temporary discontent when simple methods do not help?
- Psychologists recommend taking a timeout. No, not in a relationship. It's about work. If the husband comes from work angry, you need time off. Vacation is not always provided just in difficult situations at the company. Therefore, a woman needs to arrange at home a paradise in which she does not want to think about business.
- Attract attention - never work should be higher than family. If there are children in the house, use them so that the father feels necessary at home.
Psychologists say: the stronger sex is so vulnerable that it is struggling hard with diseases and minor problems. The reasons for this may be not only difficulties at work, but also hobbies, which cause more interest in men.
Causes of irritation: why is he angry at home?
Any woman feels treason. And when a man comes home in a good mood, and then sharply becomes sullen, it's not about work. So, you need to look for "symptoms" in the family:
- Annoying wife - she always gets issues, is interested in work, does not stop. Such women do nothing but the house. Hence the genuine interest in someone else's life.
- Bad appearance - housewives rarely go to beauty salons, often burdened with caring for a child. You need to unwind, arouse interest in your person.
- Double life - men are bored of monotony. As in the film "I Love My Husband," the wife in the person of Elena Klimova was able to return the chosen one to the family and prevent him from leaving. More precisely, he went to her same wife. Perhaps the man has another woman who takes too much time. And not fulfilled expectations depressing her husband.
The lack of desire to return home only speaks of a dying passion. And this is fixable - a lady should take time for herself. And the saying "The less a woman we love, the more she likes us" applies to husbands.
Stereotypes and far-fetched problems
Not always the wife is able to accurately determine what the problem is. A specific female gut can repeat about the crisis, difficulties at work. Sometimes she plunges into herself:
- how often did you find yourself thinking that your husband was cold;
- it begins to seem to you that he has fallen out of love, wants something new;
- you cannot get used to the idea that he will leave.
If you remove all the speculation and find out why the husband is angry during a conversation, it becomes clear that the situation lies in his inability to present problems. It can be a torn rubber on a new wheel, or a broken automatic transmission. Sometimes even the smallest situations can cause indignation in fragile creatures such as the stronger sex.
Character and temperament
Once upon a time there was one woman. She got married, married for 12 years. Two children were already growing up, pleased with the ratings. The husband was always in a good mood, the family did not know quarrels and scandals. At one point, she had already become for him a fiend of hell.
Psychologists call this behavior a “pattern module” when a person in adulthood copies the images of communication with his family (with his wife, in particular) seen in childhood.
If the husband became angry, and until a certain moment seemed sweet and kind, the problem is upbringing. This type of husbands is called a “sullen household member” who is satisfied with everything but nothing. It is difficult to understand a person - the individual requires not to disturb him. Well, that's right. Follow his advice, do not get your husband questions. Perhaps he will see that the behavior model of his parents does not work in his own family.
Aggression and irritability: forms of manifestation, or how to recognize a tyrant
There are several reasons to recognize your husband’s sources of irritation:
- Troubles at work, which he carefully but ineptly hid. A man’s brain does not always manage to switch from a “working” to a “home” mode. Because of what is the "casting of problems into the family." They say about such people: “Do not bring scandals to the house, so that your wife does not see your failures.” True, in difficult situations, men are already facing the boss, making excuses, although in reality they are looked at by the wife with misunderstanding in the bedroom. Recipe: make up for physical exhaustion with new events, overwork - with vacation, and lack of sleep - a banal full sleep.
- Psychological trauma of childhood - in most cases, aggression is manifested precisely because of problems of the past. Once the boy was afraid to remain without a mother, and now - without a wife. And now she needs to get out of the maternity leave for work. Scandal. Misunderstanding. Without a specialist, the scandal cannot be solved, and it won’t work out. Suspicions, pathological jealousy and the collapse of the family will be born.
- “I just told him that this is not the time for the second child. And he screamed and left. " There are also such “cadres” who see all their lives before themselves the relationship of parents “on knives”. If we take this as the norm, any conversation will come down to abuse and quarrels. Typically, this behavior is noticeable at the beginning of the relationship.
- Alcohol and drugs. When it is difficult for a person to adapt and understand where reality is and where the point of no return is, he becomes angry and irritable.
- Male irritability syndrome (SMR). This is a new diagnosis in medical practice, which means a pathological change in the psyche of men, like menopause (in women). The body no longer produces testosterone in the right amount, libido decreases, sexual function regression sets in. Some men endure it acutely.
It is important for a woman to understand that her husband will not always be in a state of aggression. There is a way out - support, appropriate treatment and coding in case of alcoholism.
What if the husband screams?
When a woman cannot literally shout to a companion, she tries to explain her position with her fists. The emotionality of women is higher, so tears and tantrums can happen more often.
The cry of a man is an extreme measure of protection. If the husband is angry, raises his voice, opens his hands for the first time - this is not a syndrome or illness. This is an indicator of a high level of complexity in business and work. It is hard for him to go through a period that he is ashamed to talk about. Perhaps he made a fatal mistake and is afraid to admit. A conversation to help and a discreet look at the problem.
Cold in a relationship: where did it come from?
When the senses cool, the pair breaks up. Stop brawling, swearing. It happens differently: everything annoys him, from her smell to her gait. A woman should find out how strong she is - a feeling of hatred. If the reason is different, then she was just there - she fell under a hot hand.
If your husband is angry and aggressive only recently, think about what has changed in his schedule and daily routine. We are sure that you will find many answers to your questions.
Stress and fear
Men are dependent on how socially adapted they are. If, due to fear and female mockery, it will be difficult for him to prove himself, the libido and ego will be deep under the baseboard.
There was another girl who loved her husband for his decisive qualities. He organized a wedding, and took over the expenses. She did not know any trouble. But as soon as there was not enough fireworks, the man threw all his strength into solving this problem. And so every time. His wife did not see him until he “resolved” the situation. For this, after all, she fell in love.
There are people who are used to relaxing over a glass of wine, at the monitor or with friends. When a person is limited, he begins to get nervous - his salvation will be taken away, efforts will not be praised, they will not be considered a man at all. Women have to put up - to substitute a shoulder for help, to be a reliable rear, so that a little affection and they “roll over”. Otherwise, all problems will fall on the husband, and the woman can only put up with zeal and perseverance, aimed not at the mainstream of family and love life.
Mental treason: what kind of life did he dream about?
Not only platonic treason is considered as such. The angry husband came home. And what? At home, my wife prepared, put on shirts. Dinner is served, shoes are polished. And he would drink and sleep half the day off. And there is.
Why is the husband angry, missing something? He dreamed of a beautiful wife, and received a housekeeper with a care function, like that of a mother. There are men who cannot imagine their life in the family - it seems to them that their wives will be flexible, loyal, not scandalous. And when they get it, they are disappointed.
It’s not always possible to get along with your dreams. From here a complex arises: he was not able to achieve another, not reliable, not able to organize comfort himself. The husband walks constantly angry and because of delicious food - there’s no reason to leave. As in a joke: “A woman is riding in front of me. Infuriates. He drives the car so carefully that there’s nothing to complain about. ”
So it is in the family - ideal relationships do not pass the test. In a barrel of honey there should be a fly in the ointment, on which passion, attraction, craving for each other will be built.
He is not 25: crisis or upbringing?
You lost your job, adult children, left, evil husband: what to do in this situation?
- There is a time when children leave their parents. And their life force is now directed nowhere: there are no more children, and grandchildren have not yet been born. The period is called a tidbit, when the couple can once again devote themselves to each other. Many do not understand all the subtleties and begin to inquire about the satellite with questions, jealousy and incomprehensible insults begin.
- In middle age, two adults should be able to find a compromise. Often couples disperse when the children have already arranged personal families.
- Even an angry ex-husband can ruin all sorts of relationships when there is no need to restrain feelings and emotions. All the same, the children will not know this.
Such situations happen in 40-50 years. Men should think about a new occupation, remember their youth and bring their spouse to a restaurant. Women better tune in to themselves: change their hairstyle, change their stylist, wardrobe. There is no need to control children, switch custody to her husband.