Unfortunately, couples who do not quarrel or do this extremely rarely are almost absent in nature. In real life, clashes between lovers occur quite often. The cause of disagreement may be both an open tube of toothpaste and a more serious reason, for example, diametrically opposed views on important things.
Suppose a girl wants to go to rest at sea once a year in order to gain strength and energy for the next year, and the guy wants to save money to buy a garage and offers not to go anywhere. Such different desires and outlooks on things can lead not only to a big quarrel, but even to parting, because how many such inconsistencies can be found in the characters of two people?
Usually, after major quarrels and quarrels, it is rather difficult to establish relations. It is important here that one of the partners is able to seek compromises and go forward. That is, in the union of two people, someone must be wiser, more resourceful and more cunning (in that regard, to somehow beat the situation in such a way that is beneficial to both parties).
What to do if a quarrel did happen and you just need to do something in order to make peace? First of all, you need to think about how to build relationships and at the same time find a compromise in that problem, which caused the whole fuss. It is important to understand that in order to be able to talk calmly, it is necessary that after a quarrel with a loved one time passes and "passions subside."
You also need to think not only about your interests and desires, but also about the wishes of your beloved, because he also has the right to his opinion, he must be taken into account, no matter how you like it.
If you have already found a compromise and want to offer it to your loved one, but don’t know how to approach it in order to build relationships, here are a few options:
- Remember how you walked in the mall and he really liked the original tie, but at that time there was no money to buy it? Find him and buy for him. And in the evening, when a loved one is about to go to bed, put him on his pillow. Just imagine - he throws back the blanket, and there - his dream. He will be very glad that you remember and were not too lazy to find that tie. Then you can proceed to the conversation.
- You can paste notes around the apartment with pleasant words and hints that you want to establish a relationship and completely open to serious conversation. it will look very unobtrusive and at the same time will make it clear to your loved one that you are worried, but are ready to take the first step towards reconciliation.
- Do not be afraid to apologize! Just because you upset a person and caused him a lot of unpleasant minutes (or maybe you generally behaved very rudely than unbelievably upset your loved one). Send him something to work that he really loves with the courier and buy a large postcard where you write the words of apology and remorse. Let us know that you are waiting for a loved one in a designated place in order to try to establish a relationship.
- If everything is very serious, and you feel that you are losing your "half" - go to extreme measures. You can order a banner with his photo and draw a signature in the form of verses of your own composition from below. It's quite expensive, but worth it.
You can find quite a few options for reconciliation, you just need to think carefully. This is actually not the main thing. The main thing is how you will discuss your problems and look for ways to solve them. If it is only you who are to blame for the big quarrel (your careless behavior, optionalness or pain), then reconsider your behavior in the root. For if your loved one will forgive you this time, then no one will guarantee him that you will change. Nobody but you! That is why, if you are dear to a person who is close to you, it is important to review your principles, behavior and everything that he may not like in your behavior in relation to him personally.
Discuss your claims to your beloved and you will find a solution that will suit both.
Remember the main rule: it is advisable to discuss everything, even the smallest points, and conduct conversations on topics that concern you. Only then will it be possible to understand each other and maintain a relationship, and that is what matters.