"Be a man! Petya is a real man! ” How often do you hear such phrases ... And what does it mean to be a man? And in general, where did the qualities of a true "Maine" come from? Let's try to understand this article.
Ideal man
If you read articles in magazines, watch talk shows devoted to this topic, you can conditionally highlight the following points:
- A real man is one who does not talk in vain, but makes decisions himself.
- He has no constant doubts about his abilities.
- A man trusts his instincts, but is able to listen to advice.
- Honest
- Hardworking, but do not forget about attention to loved ones.
- A true man is capable of sacrificing his interests.
- Respectfully for women.
- Does not look down on the weak and is not subject to prejudice and so on.
Based on the list, being a real man is not so simple. How many can boast that in their environment there is one? Probably not. It’s hard to be ideal, and is it necessary? After all, flaws are a highlight of character, emphasize individuality.
How to be a man
The family lays the foundation for masculinity. An important role in the formation of a masculine character is played by the father's profession. For example, consider what real men in military families should be based on conversations, stories. The main quality is composure and accuracy both in conversation and in actions. It is important to be able to answer for yourself, without shifting your guilt to anyone. Masculinity is manifested through actions. Crying is allowed only in special cases, alone with yourself. You must always work, not sparing energy and not being lazy. And what about the families of athletes? What are the main qualities of a man? It is important to have a sense of responsibility towards your family. The representative of the stronger sex is obliged to support, protect their loved ones, respect the elders. Thus, to build a kind of family hierarchy. For your own growth, you often need to arrange training situations for yourself and learn how to easily overcome them. Of course, the listed qualities apply to all men in any family. Do not forget that reliability, a sense of duty and responsibility do not exclude kindness, the ability to forgive and a sense of humor.
Macho - who is he?
A cheeky look, light bristles, naughty hair, a pumped up body, dressed in jeans and a T-shirt, a casual shirt, are one of the images of a confident hero of cult action movies and romantic TV shows. Girls in real life fall in love with him, later being in search of “the men of their dreams”. Guys try to copy gait, smile, conversation. That is, there is an orientation to external signs, bright and, as it is believed, attractive. How “macho” can be a real man? The first type is pronounced sexuality and aggressiveness, a little arrogance mixed with charisma. Inner feelings, feelings are not visible. The second type - it can be slightly unprepossessing, simple in dress and manners, but the character breaks out, and you can immediately see that you are faced by a Person who is confident, purposeful and kind. Which of them to be near, of course, is chosen by a woman.
If a man does not move away from the mirror
A well-groomed, fashion-conscious, slender young man attracts eyes. It's nice to look at him, it's interesting to talk with him. A metrosexual man, like a beautiful cover of a glossy magazine, sometimes with relevant content. As a concept, this word appeared in 1994. Denote some of the components of this type:
- Metrosexuals like women. He can be either hetero or homosexual.
- Mostly friendships are made with men of their circle.
- He is always aware of fashionable novelties, he will choose clothes for himself and his girlfriend.
- Subject to emotional and moral unrest.
- Keeps track of his diet. Often among them there are good cooks.
- It uses cosmetics. Scrupulous to his appearance.
- It plays an important role in keeping your body in good shape.
- Attentive to the little things.
- Likes giving presents, organizing surprises.
There is another type, obsessed with beauty, but not only his own. These men are called yuppies. They strive to occupy a high position in society, to surround themselves with beautiful women, cars and so on. A man assigns the main role to a career and carefully creates an appropriate image of well-being.
The choice in favor of the metrosexual is likely to be made by a woman who is very sensitive to the themes of style, fashion, and beauty. You can meet such a guy only in cities, as large brand stores are located here to maintain the right image. In favor of yuppies speak a representative appearance and the ability to earn. But here the lady is waiting for a barrier in the form of a greater number of rivals near a successful handsome man. And it depends only on her whether his choice will fall precisely on her.
Quality assessment
Many magazines print tests for men on various topics. Answering questions, you get a certain result, whether or not to believe that - everyone chooses for himself. Most often there are tests to determine male strength, as this is one of the main reasons for pride in oneself. Such tasks are focused on the study of psychological comfort and the identification of physical problems. There are also male tests to determine the propensity for alcoholism, baldness. With their help, you can find out compatibility with a girlfriend, a suitable style in clothes, level of self-confidence and much more. The only question is whether they need to be carried out by a real man, because he himself knows what and who he needs.
And the son suddenly grew up ...
Recently, the cult of the family began to lose its significance. There are frequent cases of raising a son only by his mother, and this, of course, affects the nature of the future man. It also happens that the husband chooses for himself the role of a supplier and does not show a desire to participate in the upbringing of his children. This is also wrong. For a child of any gender, both mother and father are important. Dad gives a feeling of security and support. He instructs, is engaged in physical development, and teaches elementary labor skills. For example, a father chopping wood, a son, too, but with a children's hatchet.
Dad's role
How to be a man in your own family? We must not forget that there is always a case in the house, and a child will be happy to act as an assistant, thereby learning to work from childhood. The son, watching how the father helps the mother, performing physical housework, will also strive for this in his family. A man is the owner of a wealth of life and social experience that he can share with his child. Father teaches to fight fears and overcome failures. A woman with her unconditional love will not always be able to give wise advice. How to be a man? In principle, this is not difficult, you just need to remember that you are an example for your children. Each father wants to be proud of his son, and for this a man must make an effort.
If a woman is both mom and dad
In cases where the upbringing lies entirely with the mother, due to divorce or the constant absence of the father, where can I take an example to follow my son? It is hard to be a man when there is no sample. What should a woman do? First, always encourage a child’s stamina. For example, the son is crying - you need to be sorry, but if he fell and did not cry, endured, then it is necessary to praise. Secondly, the words “brave”, “responsible”, “strong” and others are often mentioned.
An excellent experience would be acquaintance with male professions, with the direct participation of a son or during role-playing games. For example, when a locksmith comes to call home, allow the boy to watch what and how the worker does. For the proper development of male qualities, you can define him in the sports section, where the coach is a man. It is important to give your son the opportunity to freely pour out the accumulated energy, and this is running, cycling, wrestling and so on. Otherwise, nervous strain may occur.
Hero image
The game of "heroes" is the basis for the formation of the correct image of a man. You need to read books in which, for example, fearless knights show what real men should be. The installation on “heroism”, especially in our country, is always relevant. Familiarity with the stories of wars and the exploits of our ancestors will help to educate not only a sense of patriotism, but also respect for elders, and pride in their kind. Of course, it is good when both parents raise their child with love and responsibility. Everyone's contribution is incredibly important. But even alone, feeling the needs of children and responding to them in time, you can educate a worthy person.
Description of masculinity in literature
You can learn about how to be a man from magazines and books. And every time describes his masculine ideal. So, in the Middle Ages, the honor and valor of brave knights who tirelessly struggle with injustice are praised. The man of that time is capable of sacrifice, he is generous. His life is serving his king, the people.
What should be able to a man who lived in the time of Ancient Russia? Here the heroes are the heroes. Mighty, hardworking, open men, they were not afraid to go into battle. They possessed good disposition and the ability to forgive their enemies. The stronger sex has always been at the head of the family, blaming all the responsibility for solving problems. In later works, sacrifice for the sake of the people, love, friends was one of the most basic features of the Russian hero. They were often in search of the meaning of life, emphasizing the sensuality and vulnerability of their souls. Idols can be called Taras Bulba, Prince Andrei Bolkonsky and Pierre Bezukhov, Konstantin Levin, Grigory Pechorin and many others. Heroism was sung with even greater force in the works dedicated to the Great Patriotic War. There is no question in them: "How to make a man be a man?" They were already born.
What modern literature says about the ideal strong field
Currently, the image of a brave hero, selfless and loyal, is rapidly dying away. In return, thanks to the promises of television, glossy magazines, advertisements, a new ideal is born. How to be a man now? The answer is simple - you need to have a lot of money. At least that is what the media advocate. To succeed becomes the main motto. To be faithful means to be uninteresting. Fear of Doomsday is replaced by a panic of impending old age and unpopularity.
In men's magazines you can often find the rules of behavior for the ideal man :
- A man should be responsible to his friends during the holidays. A drunk friend should be taken home and put to bed.
- You need to be able to maintain a conversation, but not crush with excessive intelligence. Humor must be added to knowledge.
- Gaining credibility through the ability to provide first aid.
- One of the main accessories of a man is a tool box.
- Strong sex should be able to cook.
The listed abilities are certainly necessary, but are they the main ones ...
Female look
The fair sex emphasizes the role of a man as a mentor. He gives advice, provides support, patient, and most importantly, always keeps his word. Everyone needs care. It will be a pleasant surprise for a woman when, when she comes home tired, she finds on the table the dinner prepared by her husband. He calmly listens to how his wife spent the day. Let such evenings be held infrequently, but a woman will know that they are interested in her, they love her.
In addition to caring, persistence in one's beliefs is appreciated. Even if the lady pretends to be offended by her husband’s refusal, but she will always respect him for his perseverance. Honesty and openness of a man gives a woman a sense of security and trust. And of course, no one downplayed the role of a good sense of humor. Without it, the stronger sex seems boring and boring. How to be a real man for the fair sex? You need to be generous, hardworking, passionate and able to surprise. Well, if he also knows how to cook well and is clean. A real man loves children and enthusiastically spends his time with them. Of course, for different women, the ideal of masculinity is different, but usually all qualities can be indicated by the phrase: "A man should be a man."
Quotes of the stronger sex
In conclusion, we give a couple of examples of statements by famous men about their and women's virtues:
- "The weaker sex is strong due to the weakness of the stronger sex to the weaker sex."
- “He who overcomes others is powerful, but he who overcomes himself is powerful.”
- “I am handsome, strong, smart, kind. And I discovered all this! ”
- “Women are created solely to please a man. A man likes a woman because of his mental and moral superiority: he likes him because he is strong. ”