In today's world, family values are greatly distorted. The reason is simple: women and men have gained equal rights, and instead of building a simple nest, we surrender ourselves completely to a career and an illusory perspective. But let's find out why a wife is needed and whether it is important to register a marriage in the 21st century.
Simple truths
We completely forgot what a family is. These are not just obligations or social principles to which all people must blindly obey. First of all, family is a serious and responsible step that couples take by mutual agreement. Marriage should not be built on the subordination or construction of power, on the birth of children and an unplanned pregnancy, on the realization that it is so "necessary" and "what people think."
We forgot about a simple truth that explains why we need a wife and husband. These are two satellites who decided to conquer the world not alone, but by joint efforts. However, even after receiving the coveted marriage certificate, they remain free personalities who have the right to decide what clothes they wear, which perfume or occupation to choose.
How to become a good wife: effective tips
Contrary to popular belief, a good and loving wife is not a slave who must strictly follow the patriarchy in the family. She is not obliged to keep her thoughts to herself and limit her interests only for the good of her husband. However, to be a wife is a complex role, not suitable for everyone. Brief tips for those who want to become a caring wife:
- Know how to say no! sudden emotional outbursts.
- Learn to take care of a man the way you demand from him.
- The husband is not the navel of the planet, but you are not the very heart of the universe. Do not limit the world only to you.
- You will find a life partner in accordance with your perspectives, desires and intelligence. Do you want a good and caring husband? Become the same!
Common mistakes
Does a modern man need a wife if she is only a consumer and an active user? We do not think about why the stronger sex is so open and active in demonstrating the horror that only the thought of family ties causes them. But the answer lies on the surface: for thousands of years of marriage, a woman has not been able to change the nature of a man, much less to adapt to her. The same can be said of a strong field: no matter how many years the concept of a family exists, women have remained a huge secret hidden behind seven seals.
Women make many mistakes, thereby pushing the beloved man away from themselves, the main of which is egoism. What does the majority of girls achieve? Completely subjugate a man to himself, without giving him either the right to choose or the opportunity to realize himself. The female gender makes the man’s world revolve completely around his wife. Such egoism simply trains the stronger sex and makes them tame pets, which become weak-willed, weak-willed and soft-bodied.
Of course, after a few years, a woman is bored with this behavior, and they make another mistake - they begin to "cut" her husband. But how to fix a person who for a long period unquestioningly carried out all the tasks of his beloved, completely losing any taste for life? It’s important to understand that this is not about tyrant men who do the same to their wife, making her just “the mother of my children,” a personal cook, housekeeper, and sex slave.
Smart wife
To learn how to become a smart wife, you need to be clearly aware of the seriousness of marriage. Let's look at the most popular tips:
- A smart wife always listens to the words of a man. You are not a slave, but you must understand that men are the dominants in which nature is guarded by the protection of its territory and rule. Sometimes it is worth looking down your eyes to listen to the head of the family and follow his clear instructions. We are not talking about the ungrateful use of labor, turning a woman into another housekeeper.
- A smart wife always supports her man. Flattery in a relationship is inappropriate if you want to create a strong family. Support is expressed in the fact that a woman hears about the dreams and plans of a loved one, helps to search for the necessary information and actively participates in his life. At the same time, it is important to teach the male gender that women also have their own ideas and dreams.
- A smart wife knows how to restrain her emotions. However, like a sane husband. Put yourself in the place of a young man when, after a hard day's work, the girl begins to actively talk about the useless activities of her friends, and then she is also offended that her beloved is not involved in the conversation. It's time to direct your impulsiveness to self-development!
Male gender is not always strong
Another simple truth: we are used to thinking that men are stingy with a tear, never show emotions, and indeed, rude, cold and always serious. In fact, a loving wife will be able to get to the most hidden depths of her soul, where many experiences, secrets and problems are stored.
Remembering this fact, the wife should be caring for her husband and not focus only on her person. Sometimes a man also wants to press his head against her shoulder and simply think about the eternal, forgetting about worldly problems. Another major mistake of women: the wife often reproaches her beloved for what he did in his life. Perhaps many do not realize this, but when a man opens before you, this indicates full confidence. Remembering the facts from the life of your husband and creating weapons from them, you will forever push him away from you. After that, the beloved will begin to move away, and eventually even look for support on the side.
Gifts are important too
There is a stereotype that a man must give his beloved endless gifts, make romantic surprises and surprise every few days. But why do we need a wife, if the stronger sex can win the attention of any girl she likes with such actions, who will ultimately not throw up tantrums, but give only pleasant moments?
In addition to the fact that it is important to support and be able to side with a man, girls must also give gifts, showing signs of attention. First, make surprises based on what your husband loves. Secondly, do not put all responsibility on the stronger sex and help him better whenever possible. For example, do not be afraid to change your style and image, especially if it excites and encourages a loved one. First find out what he likes: lace underwear, red hair or maybe a fragrant steak with arugula. Help him arrange a meeting, take the responsibility to make a speech, prepare a few shirts for the presentation.
The husband is not only a getter, but also a person
Why do we need a wife if a man cannot manifest himself as a person and do what his soul reaches for? We forget another simple truth: the male sex should not work in three places just to free her woman from financial worries, provide her with a beautiful future and completely forget about her interests and needs. It is for this reason that men refuse to have serious relationships in the 21st century, because they can channel all their energy into self-development and education.
Before you build a family and give birth to children, you need to think about - but have you achieved everything in life that you wanted from early childhood? A smart and loving wife will always know who her husband dreamed of becoming, and will help in every way to help him achieve what he wants. At the same time, the man, in turn, also helps his soul mate.
How to get closer
To learn how to be a beloved wife, it is important to ask yourself and your husband a few questions:
- Are you ready to accept that relations are not victims, but joint efforts to achieve common goals?
- Do you realize that each of you is a free person who does not owe anything to anyone (we are not talking about caring for children and the obligations associated with them)?
- Do you realize that anger, aggression and hatred will sooner or later ruin your relationship?
- Do you accept the fact that sometimes you need to fall to the bottom together with your husband in order to see all the most terrible traits of your and his character, look at each other from a different side, and ultimately achieve absolute success together?
- Do you agree to develop every day without degrading as a person?
- Are you ready to change yourself and your behavior in order to achieve harmony within your family?
- Do you understand that you need to abandon the stereotypes that inspire us, how women and men should behave in a relationship?
- Do you realize that in a family, husband and wife are a unit where there can be no disagreement?
- Did you know that you will have to learn wisdom all your life, gaining life experience and analyzing your past actions?
Only when you answer these questions in detail and honestly, you can understand how to become an ideal, loving and smart wife.
Do not make a man the only meaning in life
A smart wife realizes that the husband is not the center of the universe, and you don’t need to rotate around him 24/7.
- First of all, each of us should have our own interests. If you are lucky to be a housewife and not care about financial well-being, then find yourself a hobby. Go in for sports, read books, write articles, get involved in scrapbooking, study herbalism and draw ridiculous pictures - this will help you not to focus on your husband’s “wrong” look or tired answers to numerous questions.
- Secondly, do not forget about your appearance. Correct nutrition, change your wardrobe, learn perfect makeup. When a woman realizes that marriage is not a prison where everything is done according to a schedule, then many problems themselves will leave the relationship.
Keep your family happiness secret
Girlfriends are good, but you must realize one more truth: marriage is sacred, and the husband and wife must keep it, without letting anyone in. Even if you trust your girlfriends, mom or brother - everything that happens in your relationship is personal and forbidden to third parties.
Screaming is useless
“At first they provoke us, and when they divorce, they shout that we are rude and inadequate,” is how men perceive female impulsiveness. Before expressing your dissatisfaction, take a deep breath and realize that screaming and scandals can lead your husband out of himself. Then you get what you eventually achieved - hatred, harsh words, resentment and tears.
Think about whether shouting will change anything in your relationship? Perhaps if a man forgot to buy bread or, running away to work, did not take out the garbage - this is not a reason to throw a scandal and bring the matter to a divorce, complaining to friends that your husband is a real tyrant.
To summarize
Do not show spinelessness - uphold what is interesting and important to you. This will simultaneously show your interest, character, desire to discuss. As mentioned above, a family is not a relationship of a slave and her master, so you should not perform marital duty with a high temperature or in the absence of sensitivity. However, do not hide your preferences and experiences. Husband and wife should fully trust each other, realizing that there is nothing shameful or disgusting in their deeds before they met. Remember that a husband does not need a wife who is ready to betray, change, undermine trust, deceive and humiliate.