Often married couples are formed due to mutual attraction to each other, great love or falling in love. At these moments, people do not think about whether they have any common hobby. But it’s so important to have common interests and family affairs, because if love doesn’t feed anything and even have no common topics for conversation, sooner or later this state of affairs will inevitably lead to divorces.
What should be the goal in the family?
Unfortunately, in our time the science of the family and how to build it correctly is forgotten. Therefore, there are so many family unions in modern society that seem to be prosperous and successful. But if you delve a little further, it turns out that happiness is not present in them.
In our century, the modern family already has a prevailing stereotype of family life, which for many seems to be the norm. This is when a husband comes tired after a hard day from work and immediately sits down to watch TV or play on a computer. At this time, his wife is engaged in household or some other business in the kitchen, and the children play with their toys. Many will say that idyll and harmony reign in this union, but, apparently, they have no common goals and interests of the family. They have no joint emotions and empathy, therefore, over time, they become more and more distant from each other.
When people get married and embark on an interesting journey called family life, they must clearly understand what their common goals are, in order to then go together with them. Until they are outlined, a person will not understand what qualities his second half should be endowed with.
A modern family should not forget that common goals will necessarily become the key to long-term happiness and mutual understanding.
What goals are considered a guarantee of a happy family
A common notion is that the goal of a family should be the birth and upbringing of good and healthy children. This, of course, is also important. But what will happen to this marriage when the children grow up and leave to build their own path? Everything, the goal of all life will be achieved, and nothing in common will remain. Therefore, spouses simply need to have other common interests and family affairs, in addition to children.
It is believed that a marriage between two people is a kind of school of love. And if the family truly appreciates and respects each other, then the relationship with the years becomes only stronger. Thus, the true goal of married life is to achieve perfect love.
The main goal for each spouse should be the constant care of their soul mate and the task of making each other's lives easier. If you observe all these rules and parting words and do not forget about them, then it is possible to achieve trust, harmony and happiness between them.
Joint hobbies and general leisure
According to statistics, which was derived by American scientists, every second man in the world spends his free time watching any television shows. But why not watch them with your wife? After all, you can choose any program that will appeal to both, or download a movie, which is very simple to do in our age of the Internet. Even such a joint pastime can become a link that connects the family and provides a new topic for conversation and discussion. For example, you can make your family tradition every Friday to arrange such joint viewing with popcorn and various other goodies.
Leisure
The common interests and affairs of the family can be found outside the walls of the house. It’s good if it is connected with some kind of physical activity, as scientists have proved that a passive lifestyle affects not only human health, but also its psyche. Suppose you can come up with the following active common business and family interests. Examples:
Joint outdoor recreation.
Picnic.
Hiking with a halt for a snack.
Occupation by any active sports.
A real camping trip with a tent and overnight in the forest.
For this type of rest, large expenses are not needed at all, but only a desire and desire to spend time together.
Common interests of parents and child
The role of the family in the life of the child is undoubtedly very important. In order not to miss the moment during the growing up of the offspring and to remain always different for him, one must, of course, have mutual relations with him for spending time together.
It’s not at all difficult to find common business and family interests. The world around, if you look at it only with different eyes, can tell a lot of ideas for this. For example, if a child has already grown up and can take care of a pet, you need to have a common family pet and walk together when time permits. At such moments, there is the opportunity in a relaxed atmosphere to discuss with your child any of his problems and what may bother him.
Parents can learn, if they still do not know how, rollerblading or skiing, and then spend so much fun with the whole family. Morning jogging or evening yoga classes can be a good tradition. Yes, anything, the main thing is to be together.
Favorable climate in the family
When a child grows up in a family, it is very important what kind of family climate prevails in her. From parents, the child receives preparation for further life in society. Therefore, it cannot be denied that the role of the family has an important function in the formation of his personality.
The child, like a sponge, absorbs what is happening in the walls of his house, and then he transfers all these principles and rules to his adult life. If it is customary for parents to have common interests and family affairs, then in the future their child will also act in their marriage, having learned this from early childhood. When children grow up where it is customary to communicate in a friendly and gentle manner, over time they will certainly build the style of their communication with people around them.
There can be only one conclusion from this - in order to raise a good and successful child, it is necessary that the family has a healthy moral and emotional microclimate.
Spiritual Aspects of Family Life
An important role in the harmonious relations of the couple is played by spiritual intimacy, which after years can be irretrievably lost, if you do not constantly work on its presence in life. To do this, you can choose a joint spiritual passion, such as dancing. After all, there is nothing better and more pleasant than circling with a loved one.
Now it is often possible to meet a situation where elderly spouses are already enrolling in dance art lessons in order to give their relationship a certain zest and novelty. Many psychologists have approved such a joint pastime, since the dance allows you to penetrate deeper into the personal space of your soul mate.
What is the relationship between family and society?
The family has been considered the main unit of society for centuries. It has many functions, the most important is the continuation of the genus. Therefore, all civilization and social relations begin with the family.
As a person will relate to his loved ones, so he will relate to other people. If betrayal and swearing reign in the house, then the person who is brought up in such an institution of the family will eventually think that it is possible to do the same with people who are completely alien to him.
Therefore, you should never forget a very simple thing - relationships depend primarily on what people are ready for them to do for themselves.