Relationships that end in the wrong way are always perceived by girls painfully. Often you want to restore relations, but not in order to be together, but to leave him alone. These destructive desires cannot be given free rein. If you can accept loss and not take revenge, God will give you a new relationship that will be happier for you. So what to do if the guy quit?
Firstly, you need to find or buy some large briefcase to put papers and things there that can remind you of it. Even if in anger you want to destroy all these things, do not allow yourself this. It will also be a destruction of a part of your personality, the one that was formed as a result of communication with this person. And you can’t destroy yourself in any case. Therefore, simply isolate these things from yourself, throw them somewhere far away, where it is very inconvenient to get them from. In order not to be tempted to look at the photo or re-read the letter. Speaking of letters: if you talked a lot with him by e-mail, change the address. Or, collect all his letters in a special folder so that they do not come across to you and configure the filters so that letters from his address automatically fall into this folder, and not into Inbox.
Secondly, you need to find yourself what to do. If you abandoned your beloved, it is absolutely necessary to change your habits. For example, get involved in tourism as a sport or parkour. It is advisable to choose such activities that are usually carried out mainly by men. Look for orienteering clubs, there are usually a lot of guys there. In such societies, you will not only stop being afraid of getting lost, but you might also find new love. Jointly experienced adventures are very close, and if you still learn how to cook deliciously on fire, the guys will fight for your attention. Parkour is usually carried out by courageous and young guys. It will be enough for you just to observe and admire, it is not necessary to engage in this extreme sport.
Thirdly, you need to seriously study or work. Guys come and go, and a diploma and a solid salary will stay with you, warming your soul. In addition, the question "what to do if a guy left" for a professionally successful girl is not so painful. And you can afford a lot more: for example, a membership card of a good Wellness club, in which you will feel like a goddess. Focus on professional development, be busy every minute so as not to think about what to do. If the guy threw, do not leave yourself time for sad thoughts. “Harness” to a new project at work, tell the teacher that you will be satisfied only with an excellent assessment of his subject - and realize your goals. This will correct the affected self-esteem.
Fourth, in a week or two after breaking up, arrange yourself 3 hours of relationship analysis. To do this, write on a piece of paper what conclusions you made from the relationship, what mistakes you made and why you are grateful to the former beloved. Soon you will be able to give advice to your girlfriends on what to do if the guy abandoned.
The situation is more complicated if the question is asked: "My husband left me what to do." Of course, in this case, the connections are much stronger and their gap is much more painful. However, in this case, you need to worry first of all about yourself. Recall all the dreams that you put aside because of marriage. And finally, afford everything that they could not allow. The main thing is not to show your ex-husband how painful you are and live for your own pleasure. And then he might want to come back. But will you need one?
The greatest love in life is love for God and oneself, and love for a man is just a murky reflection of these true feelings. Do not let a man mean too much to you. It spoils loved ones and destroys relationships.