Family experts believe that for a successful marriage and happiness in it, the age difference between spouses should not exceed six years. Moreover, it is better if the man is older than his wife, and not vice versa. But life has its own paradoxes. The emergence of love unions is famous for unpredictability, does not lend itself to miscalculation, does not fit into rigid frames, ignores the arguments of reason and conventionality. It often happens that Amur’s arrows strike seriously and give an impetus to the relationship of couples with a significant difference in birth dates, that is, ten years or more. Especially recently, unequal marriages often break into the show business environment. Perhaps the answer to the reasons for this trend lies in the emotionality of creative natures.
Alla Pugacheva: late novels
On the Russian stage, the personal life of Primadonna over the past couple of decades has been especially famous for surprises. Everyone knows the originality, talents and passionate nature of Alla Borisovna. And it is not surprising that all these qualities attracted men. And if we list unequal age marriages among celebrities, then one can not help but mention two high-profile novels by Pugacheva, which attracted the lively and genuine interest of her fans.
The relationship of this outstanding woman with Kirkorov has always been famous for romanticism and true sharpness of feelings. Philip showered the singer with love confessions and bouquets of roses. They lived in a happy marriage for more than a decade, although the wife was older than her husband by as much as 18 years. Their family life is over. However, Philip still with tenderness, awe and love recalls Alla and the years spent with her. And this despite the fact that they got married when Pugacheva was already 45 years old. And the famous singer divorced her young husband when she had already traded the sixth dozen. At the same time, it was she who exchanged the former spouse for a younger applicant.
Pugacheva and Galkin
Primadonna and pop artist, parodist and showman Maxim Galkin registered their marriage, already knowing each other for more than one year. According to them, love did not flare up here at first sight. The real feeling came only with time. And in another star marriage, a wife older than her husband turned out to be as much as 27 years old, which could not but amaze others.
For his beloved wife, Maxim built a very impressive family nest, which is an impressive, fabulously priced castle. And besides, he laid out hundreds of thousands every month on the maintenance of this architectural “monster,” while spending money on his missus. The couple’s residence is located in the village of Gryaz, and a couple in love spent many happy days in it. From their marriage, the twins Harry and Lisa were born, who were born, however, not without the help of the achievements of modern medicine and a surrogate mother.
However, as often happens in marriages of unequal age, this union was not completely successful. There are persistent rumors that the couple broke up. And the reason was the betrayal of a young husband.
The late love of Nadezhda Babkina
Unions, when a husband is 25 years younger than his wife, always attract attention and seem scandalous to many. In this sense, the relationship of folk singer Babkina with vocalist and composer Eugene Gore can be considered particularly noteworthy. Here, a man was not only 30 years younger than his chosen one, but also 5 years younger than her son.
Hope met her new passion at a music competition in Saratov. Then the young man was only 23 years old. At first, the union of Eugene with the performer of Russian songs seemed extremely creative. But soon, as it turned out, the unity of talented natures grew into something more. The resonance on the official announcement of their relationship was grandiose, but ambiguous. The couple was accused of insincerity of feelings, rumors circulated about their constant disagreements, including scandalous lawsuits over money. However, Nadezhda and Eugene have been together for more than ten years.
2016 gave an impetus to a new wave of rumors of a break between Babkina and Gore. But there was no real evidence of such speculation. It should be noted that the couple is only in a civil marriage. And Eugene has repeatedly stated that he values his freedom too much for this relationship to ever be officially registered.
The advantages of such unions
The weighty reason for marriages unequal in age, when a woman at a considerable age chooses a young companion as her wife, often, as psychologists say, is the partner’s dissatisfaction. There may be an emotional background, perhaps even sexual. And this vacuum of lost passions is not able to fill a mature man, whose ardor and thirst for love adventures with age already begin to fade for natural reasons.
This is very characteristic of the temperamental, creative and passionate in the manifestation of feelings for the fairer sex. And from the point of view of physiology, this is largely justified. Then, unequal unions of mature women have a beneficial effect not only on their personal happiness, but may well correspond to the needs of the chosen ones. After all, it is known: in women, the peak of sexual desires falls on the later years. And the partner’s emotionality helps a lot to raise a man’s self-esteem. This was written by Honore de Balzac, who, by the way, and this circumstance is well known, in his youth also preferred mature lovers.
In addition to these unions, there are other advantages. If a woman is older, she is independent both morally and financially. And often in adulthood seeks to patronize inexperienced men, help with advice and money. The husband becomes a reliable mentor for her husband, and he finds a great way to get away from domestic and financial problems. In addition, there is a hope to make a good career.
Cons of such unions
But such marriages are not universally perceived and are often condemned by others. People gossip, saying that the young married the old for selfish reasons, she is accused of lack of moral principles.
But condemnation from the side, of course, is not at all the main negative component of such unions, poisoning the life of spouses. An aging woman simply cannot but be jealous of a young lover for girls of about the same age category. And such impulses are often quite justified, and the oppressive and sleep depriving suspicions are by no means groundless. And the husband is far from always so passionately in love with his wife, who is losing her attractiveness every day to ignore the call of nature. Moreover, it is difficult in some sense for unnatural couples to have children. But it is precisely this factor, as recognized by many, that holds the true family union together.
Old husband and young wife
Most girls, when they marry, strive to find a strong shoulder, a support and a defender for themselves in the narrowed one. They want to see in the husband a decent family man and a loving father to future children. An attractive woman at a relatively young age, as a rule, wants her husband to be financially secure, experienced in life and love. All these qualities can be found in a mature man. Here are the reasons why young, even very young girls, choose husbands for their age much older. And if at the present time such unions are considered somewhat unconventional, a couple of centuries ago this marriage for girls was not only in the order of things, but was also considered the preferred choice. And no one was surprised that the rich grandfather got married, while taking a sixteen-year-old lady as his wife.
However, among the stars of show business, such precedents happen more often. Of course, the girls are not so immature at all. But it often turns out that a twenty-year-old beauty prefers the applicant at a very significant age. And vivid examples are more than enough.
The second marriage of Tabakov
The famous Russian actor Tabakov met his second wife at a time when she was still his student at GITIS. Oleg Pavlovich bribed the girl a genuine desire to reveal her talents, as well as extreme performance. His chosen one was Marina Zudina. Over time, she received the status of Tabakov's wife. But before that, their romance lasted, remaining a mystery to everyone, for 10 long years. And there were good reasons for this, because at the time of meeting with Marina and during the development of relations, the famous actor was still in his first marriage with Lyudmila Krylova. New love Tabakov and served as the reason for their divorce.
Subsequently, Oleg Pavlovich and Marina were spouses for 20 years. And these years were happy and fruitful for both, despite the difference in age, which was three decades. The second wife of Tabakov, now a widow, played many roles in theater and cinema. But creative workload did not prevent the spouses from raising two joint children.
Gradsky knew happiness in his mature years
The famous singer and rock musician Alexander Gradsky officially married three times during his long life, but did not find true happiness. It came later in 2004, when he met with Marina Kotashenko. At that time, she was a young twenty-year-old girl. The age difference between them was very significant - 31 years. But this did not hinder happiness in love.
Gradsky’s wife is a model and actress, graduated from VGIK, played in many theatrical productions and received more than enough movie roles. But in 2014, in her creative activity, a break came in connection with the birth of the son of Alexander.
By talents, the joint child went to parents, so the mother expresses a desire to send the baby to the art school when he grows up. Gradsky considers his wife to be a great clever girl and is surprised that, with her beauty, she preferred him. But it just so happened. And most importantly, mutual understanding and love have arisen and continue to remain between the spouses, despite the difference in age and vicissitudes of life.
Scandalous love
When a wife is 15 years younger than her chosen one, in modern society this is considered almost the order of things. Perhaps such marriages are not among the typical ones, but still seem to people to be quite normal. Of course, such a difference in age, including that of stellar couples, inevitably gives rise to a difference in interests and worldviews, often becoming the cause of sexual disharmony. And this is a big minus of such a relationship. And these negative aspects often lead spouses to misunderstanding, scandals and divorce, although not always.
But sometimes in the life of celebrities such love passions take place that people do not call such an unnatural romance otherwise than a criminal act. It is not just the contrast of ages that manifests itself here: the old husband and young wife, but something even almost criminal.
An example of this can serve as the sensational love story of Woody Allen. This American director, producer, actor and writer married his own daughter. Rather, he was accused of this. Although, in fact, Song-I, a Korean girl who was 39 years younger than Allen, was only an adopted child. And not even Woody himself, but his former passion Mia Farrow, with whom he was married. And it was like that.
The actress met Allen for many years. Therefore, it is natural that they cohabited, and he helped her in raising her children. Now it’s hard to say at what exact moment between a mature man and a young girl-adopted romantic feelings flared up. But when everything became clear, a scandal flared up serious. At the same time, the actress, by the way, with every right, even accused her of pedophilia. And she had enough supporters in this matter. And moralists and journalists did not stop washing the dirty linen of the aforementioned strange couple.
In those days, of course, it would never have occurred to anyone that such a marriage would last more than 20 years. Currently, Woody Allen and Sun-I Previn continue to live in love and happiness, have adopted two children and are raising them.
Paradoxes of Celebrities
This has already become a tradition. As soon as there is a rumor about another not-so-typical love affair among celebrities, a new scandal occurs in society. However, unequal age marriages in stars do not necessarily turn out to be unhappy. And on the contrary, successful and durable alliances, as practice shows, are becoming quite common, despite all the forecasts of gossip and moralists.
What's the secret? Perhaps age difference is not the main thing? Much more important are the sincerity of feelings, the similarity of temperaments and the resulting harmony? But be that as it may, only time can serve as a test of any novel. It also experiences the strength of feelings and the trustworthiness of partners. And we should not forget that traditional marriages with a slight age difference are also very often unsuccessful. However, everything is so individual that even the most talented psychologist for romance novels and married couples is not able to make an unambiguous forecast.