In the life of every girl there were situations when she was waiting for a call from a loved one around the clock. When the heart contracted in frantic anxiety in the hope of hearing a native voice. But men do not seem to understand that women are waiting for their call and hope for reciprocal feelings. Sometimes a young man does not call back even after the first date, although he kept his companion by the hand all the time and looked at her with loving eyes. Sometimes a man stops communication at the height of the novel, although there were no objective prerequisites for this. And it is not known which of the situations is harder. The first is when it is a shame that you are being ignored. Or the second, when feelings appeared - and silence, like a knife, cuts the heart. So why did the man suddenly stop communicating? Let's look at these two situations in more detail.
Why did the man abruptly stop communicating after the first date?
A rich female imagination can draw a thousand reasons for the disappearance of a young man. But usually they have nothing to do with reality. So what is the matter?
All explanatory but absolutely fantastic reasons
1. Force Majeure
For example, his acquaintance or loved one died, and he had to hastily leave the city, region, country. Leave where there are no mobile towers. Of course, he is worried and wants to call and talk, but the circumstances are stronger than him. Is it possible? Quite. After all, every day someone dies. Maybe your chosen one really is just such a situation? But if he really fell in love with you, the man will always find the opportunity and time for communication.
2. The disease
No matter how heavy it is. The main thing is that a loved one is simply not even able to write a simple SMS. You begin to convince yourself of the seriousness of this version. On the other hand, what prevents him from contacting you through a friend or relatives and explaining the reason for the silence? No matter how serious the disease is, it is not an obstacle to a simple phone call.
3. He was killed
This explains the similar behavior of men. Now there is a high crime rate, and the guy fell under the distribution. It remains only to cry and say goodbye to failed love. But, you see, this reason is the most incredible.
Real reasons
1. Sex on a first date
After the first date, two scenarios are possible: either the man and the woman will end up in the same bed, or in different ones. Why is the first option a mistake? Yes, because any man is a conqueror. And if he has already received everything, then what should he strive for? If there was no sex, then with each new meeting his sympathy and interest would grow exponentially. And so - the motivation was gone, and with it the desire to communicate. In general, only yourself is to blame!
2. Bust with alcohol
In a drunken stupor, the communication of a woman and a man can go far beyond the bounds of decency. Everything is possible - and a story about their secrets, and fervent declarations of love, and suggestions of the heart. Do not believe the words said while intoxicated. And any normal girl understands that in a drunken state it is difficult to seriously interest a man. And it’s all the more stupid to hope for a continuation of the relationship.
The most common reason
It is not necessary to know what is hidden behind the concepts of "psychology of communication", "features of inter-sexual communication" and other scientific terms to determine the most common reason for the disappearance of a partner. She is very commonplace - you are not his type. You may have a spectacular appearance and a rich inner world, but the man just did not hook, and that’s it. Do not be discouraged, because even monarchs, movie stars and models are rejected. It’s just not your person!
Why did a man suddenly stop communicating in the midst of a novel?
And what if the relationship lasts for several weeks or even months? The chosen one suddenly stopped making calls, answering calls, appearing on social networks and even maintaining relationships with mutual friends? Suddenly this is the end of a stormy romance? Or can this behavior be explained?
Common reasons
1. Women make phone calls too important
Girls can chat with friends for hours on end. They can remember an important event at three in the morning and immediately call someone to share the news. Men are easier on this. Have you ever seen a guy talking on the phone for several hours in a row? This is only possible if there is a woman on the other end of the wire, bothering him with her chatter.
When a girl is waiting for a call from a chosen one, she simply does not understand that it does not even occur to him to call. “I don’t call - it means busy” - so most guys think. In addition, many people have situations in life when they simply do not want to talk on the phone. And it is not necessary that the girl herself is the reason for this reluctance. Therefore, you need to calm down and stop waiting for his call. Your favorite will be announced by himself.
2. Perhaps you are in a hurry
Yes, you had a few dates and you had a good time. So why did the man abruptly stop communicating? The main reason is that you treat him as if you were your property and are very jealous. And the guys are in no hurry to say goodbye to their freedom, especially at the beginning of the novel. Of course, it is typical for girls, after the first date, to fantasize about which children will appear from the newly minted gentleman and how long and happily they will live in marriage. Guys are not prone to such sentimentality.
You are seriously thinking about wedding bells, and your chosen one may not have decided yet whether to continue the relationship at all. If so, then there is nothing surprising in his unwillingness to communicate. With his departure, he makes it clear that he is not ready for major changes. At least for now.
Serious reasons
Here we talk about the reasons why your loved one decided to self-withdraw from the relationship. Maybe he did not have the courage to say it in person, or maybe he wanted to provide an opportunity to leave him first. Well, he stopped talking and did not call for several days, and you sent him a message that everything was over. And it’s easier for him, and you’ll be upset ... So the man thinks, and the woman continues to hope for the resumption of communication. What makes the strong half do this?
1. Perhaps you are too good for him
Too educated, beautiful, smart. If he feels beside you an unpretentious coot with complexes, then it will be difficult to maintain a relationship. Perhaps you have been too smart on dates, and as you know, men do not approve of this. To feel like a real macho, they need a simple, laughter girl who watches with adoration and eagerly catches every word. Moreover, she can be brought up, erudite, but she has the mind to hide it. On the other hand, why do we need a chosen one who falls short of your bar? A man and a woman are happy in a relationship only when they have either the same level of development, or a representative of the stronger half is smarter.
2. Stuffing its price
This is very characteristic of young people. If a guy feels like a “star” and is sure that the girl will wait for his call, then he will remain silent. A man does this to irritate a woman and later take her “warm”. Just keep in mind that a girl may have new guys over this period, and the unlucky “star” will be forgotten.
Conclusion
Of course, it is very unpleasant if a man does not want to communicate. And it doesn’t matter at what stage your relationship is. For a woman, this is always a difficult situation. Try to find the positives in this. Firstly, he may not be the man of your dreams, and now you have your hands untied to search for your true happiness. Secondly, in his act there is even nobility: he did not begin to reassure and fool his head. So send him a kiss and ... forget it. Remember, if the chosen one truly loves, he will never disappoint you with a long wait.