If you delve into the history and traditions of different nations, you can understand that people have a completely different idea of when to enter into marriage. For example, in the classic work of Nikolai Leskov, describing the wanderings of an enchanted wanderer, eight years from the hero's life are mentioned, which he spent in the Tatar camp. There he married a thirteen-year-old girl who, over the years of her life, brought her husband nine children, giving birth to twins several times. And there was nothing strange, illegal or perverted in this. That was the norm.
Now every normal person understands that people who are mature and ready for a serious relationship should approach a family. Family is not a kindergarten mother-daughter game. It is the responsibility for the life and happiness of others. The strongest marriages are those that people enter into, knowing what they want from life, they are created out of love, with the aim of having children and helping each other in everything. Does a happy family life depend on the age of the spouses? Early marriages are pros and cons .
We will immediately discuss the case when people get married because the girl became pregnant. If before this there were a long and serious relationship, a bright feeling and trust, then the marriage is likely to develop in a positive scenario. But this is if the couple already somehow took place. What to do if teenagers fall into this situation? Here a lot depends on the parents. If it is impossible to do an abortion and the question that the baby is still destined to be born has already been resolved, it remains to think about the young parents. Grandmothers can also take maternity leave and give their passionate sons and daughters the opportunity to get an education.
You can even check early marriages by proposing that the young family live separately, because they are now adults and full citizens. If the mother of the young wife shows patience and tact, she can unobtrusively and without scandals teach her daughter how to cope with all duties, and the husband’s parents support their son in all endeavors, then such an early marriage will succeed. It’s worth immediately clarifying that the main thing here is that the newlyweds really love each other and want to cope with all the difficulties together.
But how many advantages such a young family has! While everyone begins to make a choice between a career and a child, young and early can safely move forward, because they already have a baby, maybe even a schoolboy. A young mother will always be the most beautiful, and children will be drawn to her, because the age difference is not so great.
Early marriages are also good because young people have so much life energy, aspirations, passion, feelings, enthusiasm. Their everyday life is unlikely to be gray and they will not get tired so quickly from some everyday problems. By the way, psychologists argue that young spouses are much easier to get used to each other and make concessions, because they have not yet formed habits and psyche has not settled down, they are more plastic and flexible.
But still, there are negative sides to this issue. All is well if there is support from relatives. If grandparents are ready to sacrifice their careers (and they are still far from retirement) and help a young couple. But what if parents cannot or do not want to help a young couple? Are such early marriages doomed to failure initially?
Most likely, yes, if none of the spouses has neither education nor a profession. After all, then the young father will have to work a lot, and the young mother to watch the baby and the household without interruption. There will be no opportunity to organize joint trips, leaving the crumbs with grandmothers, life will become gray, adult and serious. Not everyone is able to endure it with dignity and save the marriage. But if the young people still love each other, all these temporary difficulties will only strengthen their relationship.