Monogamy is actively encouraged by modern laws and lifestyles. Despite the fact that ideal couples exist only on the covers of magazines or in commercials, this is a stable stereotype. A happy marriage is a husband and wife who met each other on a school (student) bench, and their offspring. The third adult is undoubtedly superfluous.
This is how the family is perceived in the
mass consciousness. However, in life everything is not so simple, and most marriages break up, and in other cases either “left” campaigns or serious novels occur. You don’t have to go far: remember the love and
family life of our greats. Alexander II, Nekrasov, Pushkin, Tyutchev, Blok, Bely, Mayakovsky, Vysotsky ... No one had an idyll.
Monogamous faithful couples are the exception rather than the rule. For such a model of relations in which either two men share one woman (Blok, Bely and Lyubov Mendeleev), or the husband has, in addition to his wife, also a mistress (or a second spouse - for example, like Ivan Bunin), there is even a term
"Swedish family". By the way, it does not necessarily mean sexual adultery. Various relationships can connect the triangle - both platonic and erotic, including bi-and homosexual ones (Henry Miller, his wife June and her lover). An important difference from adultery is openness. Such couples may experience a variety of feelings, for example, someone may seek to preserve the marriage and for the sake of this gives freedom to the spouse (example: Mayakovsky triangle - Lilya and
Osip Briki). But all members of such a union accept it at a certain stage in their relationship.
So, there are many examples. Is it worth it to follow - everyone decides for himself. In such relationships, people abandon the "ownership" of the partner, so in a sense, these are spiritual unions. Discarding selfish jealousy, they gain not only new experiences. Similar triangles transform the psyche of each of the participants. After all, if there is rivalry, then it must be controlled. An exchange of partners (the so-called "swing") may also be provided. But more often you can find sentences like "girl for a married couple."
And far from always the initiator of such "bigamy" is a man. Often this type of relationship is ideal for bisexual girls. Couples often seek not just diversity, but a full member of their union, with which you can share weekdays and holidays. On dating sites, there are often ads like "looking for a married couple" - and note that this is not only about
sexual relations. One can evaluate this phenomenon differently, one can be indignant at licentiousness or admire emancipation. But couples who decide on such an experiment are worthy of respect. By the way, in eastern communities, polygamy is generally legalized - which means it has the
right to life. From a biological point of view, such relationships also have their justification. By fertilizing several females, the male contributes to the genetic diversity of the genus. The most serious problems may arise for “married” couples who are uniquely forbidden by such Orthodoxy or the Catholic faith. And from the point of view of officials and legislators, this is a difficult situation. Therefore, such couples cannot formally formalize a relationship with a third party.