Modern society is not far from the primitive communal system. No matter how we want to seem more developed and adapted to life in this world, we remain people who are driven by the same emotions, fears, experiences and reflexes. The difference is only in the outer shell and the presence of more knowledge, scientific facts. But in fact, we remained the same primitive people who hunted for a mammoth and strayed in packs.
Many of you consider it your duty to refute such an opinion, considering yourself to be a much more intelligent being. But look around, only the "picture" has changed. We still "get the mammoth", visiting work every day. For the "skin" that you can dress in, we go to the shopping center, use firearms instead of spears, and we still heat the food on fire. You can’t get away from creating a family. Of course, the primitive man had little sense in the psychology of marriage, but even then he understood the need to find and keep a couple. Despite the similarities above, we have become much smarter, and therefore the institution of marriage should be protected and improved. Why do so many people forget about it, destroying their family and the lives of loved ones?
Who are spouses?
Spouses are husband and wife, that is, people who are married. There is no huge difference in what to call these people, except that “spouses” is a more official name, but “husband” and “wife” are everyday. At the state level, this is a man and a woman who legitimized their relationship by registering them with the registry office. However, often a husband, wife (spouse, spouse), after many years of marriage, recall only the legal side of their marriage. And this is sad. After all, spouses are not just people who have a piece of paper with attached obligations and inalienable rights. This is, first of all, a free union into which two loving people enter.
Why do marriages break up? It would seem that the reasons lie on the surface, and every family man, looking at them, gives up and says that he already knows about it. Nevertheless, this does not in any way alarm him or force him to reconsider his relations. We suggest you study them more carefully so as not to make the mistakes that people repeat generation after generation.
Lack of understanding
It would seem that this is a rather banal reason and thing, which is often turned a blind eye. Loving couples rarely notice any flaws in each other. Often they do not see that they are completely different people with incompatible outlooks on life and future plans. The phrase “opposites attract” does not work in all cases. It is good when spouses have different interests, hobbies, occupation in the end. Then there is always something to talk about and share with your chosen one. If one of the spouses is more emotional and the other is calm, this will help resolve most conflicts. But if, for example, she has plans for motherhood immediately after marriage, and he does not consider it necessary to have children until he reaches the top step of the career ladder, it will be quite difficult to settle disagreements in such a pair. This is just one small example of why marriage can fail, and there are simply no cases like this.
Discuss problems
It is very important to think carefully about creating a family and choosing a partner, not to marry at an early age, but to look at each other. If the choice has already been made, try to discuss all the differences and find a compromise, it will certainly work out if you value your chosen one. Do not forget to just talk and share your feelings, because the lack of mutual understanding often creates a banal unwillingness to conduct a dialogue. Do not forget that spouses are people closest to each other. They will always hear.
Children of spouses, spouses of children
There is an opinion that marriage is defective if the spouses have no children. However, in some cases, the appearance of children can only spoil the relationship between partners. For example, one of the spouses may just be mentally unprepared for the birth of a child. The times when the marriage was concluded at 18 years old, and at 20 had children, otherwise the society began to look askance, have passed. In the modern world, every person makes this balanced decision himself. Another problem may be financial well-being. Raising a child is now very expensive, family well-being can "eat" life, as they say. The family (spouse, spouse) should be ready for children both morally and financially. Otherwise, partners may not cope with a flurry of problems that have fallen on them. However, discord can bring not only children of spouses. Spouses of children also create conflict situations in the family, because it is also important to find a common language with the chosen ones of your children.
Family is a fortress
We did not consider such reasons as betrayal or lack of diversity in sexual life, since such problems lie on the surface, and here everything depends directly on your choice, and not on the current situation. In any case, it is important to remember that spouses are relatives of each other, who should always be support and support. If for some reason you do not feel this, you need to seriously think about whether to maintain such a relationship.