For some, a gap is the tragedy of a lifetime. For others, a difficult event, although not a disaster. How to divorce your husband, so as not to become depressed, but to start life from scratch? Termination is rarely simple and cloudless. Infrequently, spouses are able to agree on everything calmly and peacefully. Consultation with a psychologist or family conflict specialist
help to understand how to divorce her husband, remaining with him in good relations. First of all, it is necessary for the woman and her husband. Well and, of course, to children. There are no universal ways to solve all problems, nevertheless, you can offer some simple recommendations on how to divorce your husband with "little blood" and without Shakespearean tragedies.
First of all, analyze your expectations and plans related to family life. What failed in this marriage, what suits you and what does not satisfy you, with which you can never be reconciled? Such an analysis of the “starting point” will help to prioritize correctly. For example, in your perception, the cause of a divorce is his increased attention to other women or even treason. You would like it to be an object of admiration. Think about whether you can make a difference in the situation. If not, how should you treat her? What to change in yourself in order to use experience for the good?
Maybe it's time to take care of yourself - your appearance, your inner world, and not try at all costs to attract the attention of a leaving partner?
Secondly, if the decision is ripe, begin a thorough preparation for an independent life. How to divorce your husband if one of you is completely dependent on the other or have small children? It is necessary to think over everything, and then talk about who will live where, how you organize the upbringing of the kids. If your spouse completely refuses to support you financially, there may be several reasons for this. Maybe in this way he is trying to maintain material dominance, power over you, to control your behavior. Or he already has an “alternative family”, and he is convinced that you can do it all on your own, find support for yourself. Remember, instead of insulting and clarifying relationships, screaming and crying, in any case, a constructive approach is much better. Don't want to support?
You can go to court for child support. However, first of all, try to stand up on your own. Enlist the support of relatives, but do not go with the flow yourself. Remember that your life is in your hands and you must first take care of yourself. Find a job that will give you a minimum of stability. Feeling confident in other areas of life, you will be more prepared for a break.
When asked about when to get a divorce from her husband, even a psychologist definitely will not answer. Most likely when both of you are ready for this. That is, you both have a place to live, a livelihood, prospects and plans for the future. Instead of dramatizing and suffering, think about how to make a difference. Often parents more than children themselves are worried about the fact that the daughter is divorcing her husband. After all, it seems to them that the foundations of her whole life have been shaken. Such convictions are especially strong among the older generation, who are convinced that “for the sake of preserving the family” one can neglect one’s interests and make any sacrifices. But in reality, things can be different. And it is precisely divorce that will give the chance to finally find your happiness, realize yourself, gain confidence in yourself. Therefore, the main advice: look for and emphasize the advantages of the gap and independent life. Very often there are many more than minuses.