When a couple breaks up, of course, pain, tears and resentment are indispensable. This is especially true for compassionate and vulnerable girls. It doesn’t matter for what reason you broke up, the important thing is that you feel bad after breaking up with this person and you want to return him. But it is worth weighing everything well and thinking it over, do you really need it and are you able to change for its sake?
You need to understand that a glued cup is not a whole cup and that even if you manage to get your loved one back, it can be temporary, and then it may become even more painful. If you are ready for this, then you need to think about how to return love and act.
So, you should decide who was the initiator of your breakup and how it happened. If you are the initiator, this simplifies things a little, and if it’s a guy, it complicates things, because you need to do everything very thoughtfully and competently, so that he does not have the impression that you are ready to fall at your feet if he is back. He may return, but he will not respect you for sure.
You need to pause after parting and then get down to business. To get started, you just need to call your loved one and offer to meet. You need to pick the right words in advance and set the right tone for the conversation. You can even write some phrases on paper so as not to bleach into the handset.
If the guy agrees to meet - it’s already good, then you are not indifferent to him. Book a table in advance in a quiet and comfortable cafe or prepare delicious snacks at home if you plan to have a conversation at home. So even preferable.
Previously, it doesn’t hurt to go to the stylist and change your appearance a little - to become fresher, brighter in order to intrigue him. Pick up a new outfit, but not a flashy dress, but something calm and restrained, but stylish and emphasizing your beauty.
At the appointed time, you should be ready. The whole conversation needs to be thought out in advance and vowed that if something goes wrong you would like to - in no case give your emotions the upper hand over you! Only balance and tranquility will help regain retreat.
So, the moment X has come. Keep steady and relaxed!
When the guy comes, do not immediately get down to business - let him get used to it. Ask how his day went, what he did, and so on. Then apologize for your behavior and let him know that you thought a lot about how to return the relationship, and acknowledge those moments in which you were wrong. You should not take all the blame on yourself - both are always to blame! Just someone more and someone less.
Tell your beloved that you are ready to change for his sake, but do not forget that he also has to do something in order to regain his relationship.
Listen to his claims and, if they are justified, try to do everything to change something in your behavior and resume normal relations after breaking up.
If reconciliation is difficult, at first try to see a little, you can meet and walk in the park, for example, or go to the movies. Consider that you started all over again and do not force events. If you both want to reunite after parting and rethink everything, it is important to do everything gradually. Most likely you will feel that both are ready for something more, that the old grievances have been forgotten, you have become different and are trying to do everything in order to be happy.
The main rule in a relationship is to remember that in addition to you, there is another person with his interests, habits and lifestyle, therefore, in order to be happy and not to make mistakes, you need to think about him and always put yourself in his place to feel that what does he feel. If you learn to control emotions and respect the rights of another person, then it will be simple to become happy. Only this need to persistently strive and crush the selfish beginnings.