It has long been a popular opinion that the main thing in a woman for a man is her external parameters, that is, a pretty face, figure, legs. At the same time, relevant surveys of the male population were conducted, and based on their results, almost all respondents stated that the presence of mind is the most attractive feature.
We will try to figure out what is most important in a woman for a modern man in fact and what is most important in a man for a modern woman.
External data
Returning to the question of appearance, in the modern world one can often observe the following situation. Women, the main essence of which is to maintain their incredible external data, remain lonely. The reason for this phenomenon lies in the fact that such beauty can scare away most men who simply do not consider themselves worthy of being next to such a person.
Of course, most men will never admit their insecurity even to themselves, but at the same time they will be unable to at least approach and start a conversation with a woman, which everyone turns around.
Basically, such uncertainty is associated with the popular opinion that for women the main thing is the presence of the corresponding external parameters in a man, a prestigious job, a smart car, high social status or something else.
In fact, even though all of the above can help to attract a partner, it is quite possible to achieve success with the opposite sex and not have any special material goods or a model appearance. It is enough to have at least some suspended language, a small amount of confidence and at least the rudiments of leadership qualities. Not superfluous (but sometimes not at all obligatory) will be banal self-care.
Sense of humor
Referring to the same sociological polls, many men are able to say that the main thing for a woman is not external attractiveness at all, but the presence of a sense of humor. Such a statement, as a rule, means that a man is important not the love of his passion for the genre of comedy in general, but the ability to laugh at his own jokes (which can sometimes be difficult).
Many men really appreciate the optimistic, cheerful girls who are able to keep a smile on their pretty face and the ability to laugh even in difficult times. Moreover, no man, of course, will not appreciate when a woman makes attempts to ridicule him, while humiliating his dignity.
As for the other side of the issue, we can safely say that there is a certain relationship between the ability to make a girl laugh and the ability to drag her to bed.
Comfort and empathy
In the UK, a study was conducted at the University of Newcastle, in which it was found that the presence of a partner's ability to empathize is valued much more by women than men. In addition, the study made the assumption that empathy is a form of comfort.
The researcher, in an attempt to build a theory about the emergence of this difference between the two sexes, put forward the hypothesis that the main quality in a woman even in our ancestors was the ability to create and maintain alliances in society. In the ancient society of men, for whom the ability to obtain food and the ability to defend themselves from their enemies were much more important, social skills were not used so widely.
But this goes into modernity in the form that women with a penchant for extraversion and empathy are often found by men to be more attractive.
Self-sacrifice and altruism
Another study conducted by scientists from Arizona State University showed that romantically inclined women, unlike men, have a strong tendency to participate in altruistic activities, that is, they have a tendency to charity or volunteering.
However, not all so simple. The thing is that the women studied preferred to show such inclinations, mainly in public. And this implies the presence of sexual motivation in the sense that men can find such qualities attractive.
All this once again demonstrates that socialization and the presence of skills, one way or another connected with it, are of particular importance for women in their strategies for finding partners.