When a person falls in love, he loses his mind. Hormones boiling in the blood leave no choice, all actions are guided by aggravated feelings, passion, emotions. But sooner or later, love passes. And here the mind comes into its own and can be horrified: “What the hell did you do here without me ?!” Sometimes stunned by violent feelings, a young couple decides to enter into legal relations after a few months of dating. Can a strong family be born in such a scenario? If not, for what reasons?
Joint tests
Romantically-minded young people do not fully imagine what awaits them aboard that very large ship called “Family”, which goes to the stormy ocean of life together ... It is especially difficult if the newlyweds are still very young people who do not have much experience relations, building a common life and coexistence in unromantic realities. Instead of passionate dates and intriguing conversations, they have to jointly solve pressing problems that are very difficult to call romantic. After all, the word "newlyweds" implies assigning to each member of a young family a certain role that everyone should fulfill. But what if this role doesn’t suit him, if he did not imagine everything at all, sitting in the arms of his passion during the next date? Then the first tests begin, and how successfully the newlyweds can go this way, depends only on their ability to listen to each other, to compromise, to understand the needs of their partner.
Acceleration of Events
Due to certain circumstances, a person may be literally obsessed with the idea of getting married as soon as possible. He can be rushed by age, family pressure, relatives. Sometimes the environment itself prompts them to quickly change their status: all friends have families, do not want to be a black sheep, or at work they hint that only family members can get further promotion. There may be many such factors, but all of them lead to the fact that the very idea of marriage becomes more important than the choice of a future husband or wife. When the goal is achieved, an absolutely stranger is nearby.
Yes, this “stranger” is a completely positive and attractive character, but is he close to all his shortcomings that can only be forgiven by a loved one, and is there anything in common between spouses? Ideally, newlyweds are almost a single whole: people who have common goals, dreams and aspirations in the first few years of marriage.
Unjustified expectations
Illusions about a happy marriage can crumble to dust already in the first year of marriage. And it doesn’t matter how young or experienced the newlyweds are, this is a phenomenon that is inherent in every person, be he at least 19, at least 40 - expect and believe in a happy “happily ever after.” In our dreams, we draw pictures of how we will gather every evening by a big happy family at a round table and discuss the past day, and on weekends we travel out of town with children and a dog. But in reality it may turn out that a vacation for the spouse is a death penalty, and the car had to be sold, because all the money was spent on paying for an apartment with such a small kitchen that not a single round table could fit in it.
As a result, it should be said that if the newlyweds, in spite of everything, continue to love and support each other, then all difficulties will be overcome for them. After all, not a single family passed the stormy ocean under the name “Life together” on their large ship without breaking a single storm.