There is an opinion that some people are “monogamous,” while others are always willing to start an affair with someone else. Is it so? In this article, we consider a concept such as "monogamous" - what is it? And does this phenomenon exist in men?
Male monogamy: what is it and is it there?
Some tend to believe that men have always been and, in fact, should be polygamous, because it is so provided for by nature. This argument is often used to justify treason, but how is it really? Is there monogamy? Men are attracted to women by the "basic instinct." In nature, this happens as follows: individuals met and conceived offspring. And in life, sometimes after this, campaigns or “looks” begin to the left. Instinct is working, it has not disappeared. The difference is that a woman can have sex with several men, and as a result only one child becomes pregnant. A man, having fun with several women, can impregnate them all.
Monogamy - what is it and why is it needed?
Yes, the main instinct is to stay safe, survive and produce offspring. But man alone is weak. To survive, it is important to get close to other people. Therefore, a man also needs monogamy. Firstly, in order not to compete with other representatives of the “stronger sex”, and secondly, so that his woman supports him, helps him, takes care of him. Therefore, in a monogamous relationship, both instincts are satisfied - the desire for survival and procreation. Psychologists believe that love is not lyrics, but a necessary need, which is designed to ensure human safety.
Monogamy - what is it and how is it related to marriage?
Civil marriage is a strange phenomenon. It seems that it’s a pity to part, and it’s somehow scary to get close. A more courageous option is when people have several marriages. They are not afraid to take responsibility. Our trouble is that we cannot understand ourselves, realize our instincts and needs and understand what we really need. Agree that "getting" the necessary sex is much easier in a monogamous union than "gaining attachment" if you have polygamous relationships.
If you are loyal to the partner, you can connect intelligence to the relationship and create amazing experiences in the emotional and physical plane. If you can’t create special conditions for making love, energy can be released into creativity, sports or work. Sex can be found, but to quench the thirst for affection, love and understanding is impossible without monogamous relationships. Polygamy and monogamy give us completely different possibilities, and the opposite. If there is no attachment, one way or another there will remain a void on the heart, which some make up for with the help of "love" for pets, other people's families and others. But this is still not the case.
We make our own choices. And consciously. Our instincts are not so strong as to overshadow the mind, so do not blame nature. And we pay for our choice. So, some women abandon the desire to have children and agree to have a connection with bad sex, but safety. There are men who pay for the opportunity to sleep with different women with instability, anxiety and insecurity.