The usual picture: the wife washes the floors and utensils, vacuums and wipes the dust, while her beloved husband reclines on the couch, looking thoughtfully at the ceiling. How to make her husband stand up and take a mop in his hand?
Become a Friend
No husband in the world will like it if he is forcibly chased with a rag or foot around the house and persecuted with different curses. Think about how to decide matters with your husband amicably, that is, in detail and peacefully discuss any issues, not just cleaning. The main thing in this matter is the ability to listen and hear the interlocutor.
If angry, calm down
In the case when the spouse gets you crazy, mentally count to 10, and the anger will let go. After that, go back to step one and resume the conversation. It is important not only to look, but also to feel calm, otherwise the husband will notice your nervousness and begin to get annoyed in response.
Speak directly with your husband.
Do not beat around the bush. Do not try to explain to your beloved, with vague hints, that perhaps his help would not hurt. Take the bull by the horns: firmly announce that you need an extra pair of hands. Immediately afterwards, give your spouse the necessary cleaning equipment like a bucket or a broom.
Praise your spouse for success
After a successful cleaning, praise him with all my heart with your husband. Take as joyful a look as possible so that your spouse feels how good he is. If the husband loves you, he will understand how important is his not only physical, but also moral contribution to the family business.
Cunning if you can’t agree
Yes, the hints with the husband do not pass, but there is an alternative - a trick. If your betrothed did not agree to clean up, do it yourself, but look at least a martyr. After cleaning, sit in a chair or lie down on a bed in a pained position. It is recommended that you do not take a shower before, so that the husband can feel the atmosphere. Using this tactic, it’s important not to start arguing. Just be silent. Silence and a sad face is the best kick towards an irresponsible husband.
Don't get out at all
This is an extreme measure. Doing nothing is recommended if all other options do not work. If your husband is a natural pig, forget about cleaning and live in the mud. It won’t last long, we assure you. Very soon, the spouse will begin to complain that the house is "somehow uncomfortable" and "it seems it's time to take out the trash." This is your X hour. Declare that you will start to do something only together. The husband will have no choice, and he will help you.
Do not try to be the perfect hostess
This problem is quite common in families. It is believed that a woman should be able to do everything: sew, crochet, cook oysters, and fix the roof. But no one is perfect. Honestly confess to your husband your incompetence on this or that issue. After all, you are not a servant or a silent slave. Remember that the spouse is your friend first. So don't be afraid to talk to him about what's bothering you. If there is a conflict with the mother-in-law, and let her know that you are not a robot. Be as relaxed as possible: naturalness and ease will reveal your talents and personal potential.
Finally, a little history
Do you know why men do not like to get out so much? And why are women at least tolerant of this? Because in ancient times, the male half of humanity did not participate in economic procedures at all. The man did not prepare a bed for an overnight stay, did not choose a cave with better lighting, did not think about how best to cook food so that it was delicious. His primary task was to hunt and protect his family. He literally fought with tigers and bears so that his wife and children would survive. At this very time, the woman, no matter how beaten up, sounded, kept the family hearth and did everything so that the living conditions were acceptable and even pleasant. That is why modern bachelors organize their home space so poorly and do not understand the love of women for different boxes and chests. And also to the cleanliness and tidiness of his apartment.