It is unfortunate, but in the modern world, not all men behave chivalrously, respecting and protecting the lady of their heart. Do you spend fun evenings together and even wake up in the same bed? This does not mean that the relationship is serious, and the chosen one is really in love with you. Perhaps the man is indifferent to you or simply uses you to satisfy any personal needs. How to understand that a man does not love you? How to avoid manipulation by the partner? Read the article!
Constant lack of time to communicate with her woman
Does he value work too much, disappears for a week? Know - he has no feelings for you. If a man loves a woman, he will always find a couple of minutes to call or at least a short message. And if his calls are a rarity, then you can not flatter yourself about your further relations. What to do if a man does not like, but uses (in this case, your patience and meekness)? Decide for yourself once and for all whether you need such a relationship and act!
He only needs one
Cases when men from women need sex, and nothing more, are not uncommon in the modern world. It is a pity that many women do not understand this. If a man does not love, but uses you, this can be seen immediately. When he is gentle, loving and sensitive only to intimacy, and after she turns to the wall and does not want to talk about anything - this is not love. This is a simple sexual attraction and passion. A loving person often says pleasant things to his lady, and a sexual manipulator - only at the time of arousal, after satisfying a physiological need, the object is no longer interesting to him.
How to understand that you are being used? Manipulators usually don’t think about the pleasure of the other half in bed. They think only of themselves, their discharge. These men want to be at their best, but they use the standard set of learned techniques for this, not thinking whether a particular woman will like them.
Signs that a man does not love you: inattention to business
A man in love with a woman always seeks to learn more about her, he is interested in what she lives with. He wants to know how the lady spent the day, how she is doing at work or studying, what kind of music she likes, what kind of movie he wants to watch. Such questions simply will not occur to the manipulator man; he is not interested in the past, present, or, unfortunately, the future life of the partner. If a man does not love, but uses you, he will not react sensitively to the changes in your mood and be interested in affairs and plans.
He does not use the word "we"
Does your partner not use the pronoun “we” in his speech when speaking about your couple? You can immediately draw disappointing conclusions: he has no serious plans for relations. Such a person does not recognize you as a whole. If you went to the cinema together, he can say to a friend: "I went to the cinema yesterday." He does not like talking about a joint future, even if not far off. Such a partner will not be photographed together with you and, most likely, will ask you not to upload joint pictures to social networks. Such signs only indicate a lack of love and affection on the part of the partner.
He does not let you into his life
Loves or uses a man a woman, easy to understand. All signs mentioned above speak of dislike. However, there are other important “symptoms” of the fact that you are not interested in the partner. A man who does not let a woman into his life just uses her. A man who avoids talking about himself does not like to invite a lady to visit, does not introduce her to his parents and friends, and is unlikely to take her seriously. The main signs that a man does not love you are indicated in this article. Remember them forever if you do not want to be a toy in someone’s hands! There is also such a variety of men who take the girl to their company, but stay very aloof. They do not kiss and do not hug a partner with friends and generally spend more time not near her.
Always pay attention to the masculine look. If the partner is interested in you, his eyes will give out. A man in love looks directly in the face, not going down to a blouse, neckline or knees. The eyes fixed on the neckline will tell only about sexual interest. Eyes running around the room, and do indicate a lack of interest in the interlocutor. If a man does not love, but uses you, he may even show signs of impatience (for example, tapping with his fingers or rocking on a chair).
Psychology of the victim
Why do some women seem to attract male manipulators? The fact is that a person is responsible for everything that happens to him (although he may not even be aware of this). The state of the victim is a psychological internal state, it literally attracts all kinds of lovers of easy money of a material, sexual and other nature. If someone uses you, it means that you yourself allow such situations. What could be the reasons for this internal state?
- Low self-esteem.
- Disrespect for self.
- A variety of complexes.
- The desire to hurt yourself, to punish with the help of strangers.
It is very likely that you didn’t like this explanation, but it gives an answer to the question of why you were chosen to be the “victim”. How can a woman be used?
- Love manipulation. Very often, an insecure lady agrees to “supporting roles”, that is, she simply becomes the mistress of a married man. While it seems that you are not worthy of a better option, a man will use you to satisfy physiological needs
- Professional use. In a work environment, a woman who does not believe in her strength and talent will try to throw off a considerable part of her work. Also, cunning colleagues can appropriate your ideas, currying favor with the bosses, while at the same time convincing you of absolute professional unsuitability
- "Friendly conversation. Very often a woman who is not self-confident acquires a girlfriend-manipulator who knows which buttons to press on and quickly finds a “victim” to her. A woman, listening to false compliments, and pleased with admiration in her direction, is ready to do anything for her “best friend”. What the latter uses with great pleasure.
Adverse symptoms
If it seems to you that you are being used, but you cannot be 100% sure of this, listen to such alarming bells.
- Assumptions of relatives and friends that the beloved man does not love you at all, but simply uses it. Initially, such conversations with the “victim” cause only rejection and anger.
- Analysis of relationships shows that you give much more than you receive.
Think for a few days in a calm atmosphere over the question, and then, on the contrary, try to get distracted and forget about it. The correct conclusion will come by itself.
How not to be used?
Often a woman is not able to quickly deal with this question: "Does a man love or use?" How to understand what the partner really feels, we described in detail in the article above. How can such situations be prevented? Know your worth! And we are talking not only about love, but also about professional, material plans. Have clearly defined life goals, work hard on self-confidence, and then no manipulator can simply break into your life and ruin it.
Do not settle for relationships that you do not need, just because you are alone at the moment . Similar stories lead to manipulations and sad outcomes.
Did you understand that a man does not love you, but simply uses you? Rather part with him, because the pain of separation will last much less than the bitterness of humiliation, unfulfilled hopes and frustrations!